I’ve tried every imaginable internet dating option. I’ve gone to big, gay parties and birthday celebrations.I’ve been as friendly and as outgoing as possible and I’ve tried to make myself available. Friends tell me to stop looking in bars and online and at the gay-oriented events that the city has to offer, but let’s be realistic. I can’t exactly walk up to the good looking and interesting guys that I see in coffee shops or the library or to strike up a conversation without running the risk of offending sensibilities and a possible beat-down. I have a job that has kind of turned into a career, and I love what I do.I’m now 35, single, and I still don’t know the first thing about being in a relationship.
What’s more, it really has me thinking (to quote Jack Nicholson)… ” What if I end up as that sad old gay bachelor, the spinster uncle, who lives in that well-manicured single bedroom apartment in Anderson Island with his dog and a close relationship with his mother and an endless parade of female friends who come by to eat quiche and watch and spend the night falling asleep with a book and an otherwise empty bed? I’ve been through the Shreveport dating scene, and it makes me very sad.I have , and here I’m afforded the opportunity to realize my dream of writing and seeing my work published and read and followed by actual fans of what I create.I have a host of friends and family, people who love and respect me and want nothing more for me than to see me happy and fulfilled.Unfortunately, I end the night feeling more than a little bummed, sometimes even depressed, because the bars are filled with cliques of outwardly beautiful people who either have no substance outside of surface-oriented bar talk or stick with their own kind: perfectly coiffed, expensively dressed dudes with shiny, shiny faces who roll their eyes in my direction, rather than deign to strike up a conversation with the obviously single guy who just might have something interesting to offer.At the advice of others, I’ve done one hundred other things in an effort to meet other single dudes.